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Thursday, 19 October 2017

The cloud that never leaves


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Can I tell you about the cloud that never leaves?

The cloud doesn’t care about who you are. The cloud doesn’t care about how much money you have or what your family has. The cloud doesn’t care about how amazing you are or how much everyone around you loves you. It doesn’t care that you have a beautiful life. 

The cloud only cares about consuming you. About filling you with hopelessness too great for words.

It hangs and lurks. Hangs above you, never letting you out of its sight. Lurks, in the shadows waiting for the perfect moment to pounce and attack. Always waiting and always ready.

The cloud may leave you in peace today but it can’t promise you won’t have a category 5 hurricane tomorrow morning. 

When you are sad and you don’t know why because you have no reason to be sad, it’s the cloud. When you cry and you don’t know why because you have no reason to cry, it’s the cloud.

It’s not you, it’s the cloud. The cloud is a demon. The doctors call it depression but you know it’s a demon. A demon pretending to be a cloud. 

When the cloud releases what it is carrying, when it releases the thunderstorms, category 5 hurricanes, snow, rain and hailstones all at once, don’t fight back. How can you? 

Stand. Stand or sit or cry but don’t break. Don’t let the weight of it all crush you. 

You must not let it crush you. You must not break. You must rise up. 

Rise up and burn. Burn the whole building down, burn and keep burning till the flames go up into the cloud and the cloud leaves. Even if it is for a moment. 

What triggers this attack? What triggers such a horrible attack? A cruel word said innocently, an overwhelming situation, confusion, happiness, good things, nothing. 

But when the demon attacks, it attacks in full force. It pounces on your mind and devours it completely till you feel like you cannot breathe. 

People see sadness on your face but have no idea that the sadness in your heart is greater than what your face can ever express. 

People see you sad and think you just want attention when the only thing you want, is to disappear. 

“You have no reason to be sad” they say. 

“Well, tell that to the demon behind me or the cloud above me,” I think, but don’t say. 

To the people that know this cloud, this demon they call depression, know that everything will be okay. Maybe not today but someday it will be. 

And to the people that don’t know this cloud, the cloud that never leaves, thank God every single day.

With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Sunday, 10 July 2016

Tunji Braithwaite & Dara Rhodes




I lost my grandfather on the 28 of March this year and I still can't believe it. I have started and scrapped this post over a thousand times since then, unable to write about him in past tense.

All my life till that day in March, Tunji Braithwaite was just my over-involved-in-my-life grandpa. He wanted to know how I was doing in school, how I was doing at work, what I wanted to be and how I planned on getting there. I disagreed with him and he disagreed with me. When he upset me, I wrote him strong messages and when he gladdened me, I gave him big hugs. I lived with him, played with him, fought with him, prayed with him, followed him to places, learnt from him but most importantly loved him with all of me. He was the first person to tell me I'm gifted and the second person (only after my father) to tell me that there's "something" about me.

His death really shook me because I was always sure he'd be at my wedding, sure he'd bless my children at their naming ceremonies. I assumed he'd be the one that will pray over my own mansion. I assumed, he'd always be there,  fighting and loving. Yes, he was 82 but death never crossed my mind whenever I thought about him. I worried about him turning 90 and prayed that he'd never loose his strength but I never ever worried that he might die soon.

He called me Dara Rhodes before I even knew what that meant, read every article I wrote, constantly told me to be fearless and constantly reminded me that I am his granddaughter. So today, I am nothing but grateful. Grateful to have known you as well as I did and grateful to have your blood in me. 

Since that day, I have read and listened to hundreds of people and articles talk and write about my grandpa. And even though I'm sure you didn't know grandpa, your people really loved you.

This one is for you Olatunji Akintunde Braithwaite, thank you for every single thing and I promise to never forget.

From the bottom of my heart,
Dara Rhodes

Wednesday, 30 December 2015

What Are You Looking For?

Dija of Mavins (One of the members of the biggest music dynasty in Nigeria) is my friend/sister. She became my friend months before she was signed onto Mavins and she is one young woman I really respect and love. 

Well, during one of our many talks before she became Nigeria's sweetheart, she told me something I'll never forget and something I want to share with you all as 2015 draws to a close. She said "Dara, the funny thing in this life is, whatever you are looking for is right where you started." 

She is very right and I was reminded of how right she is today. I decided to clear out an old shelf in my room and sort out all the old books on it from my primary school days to my uni days. I had completely forgotten I used to make magazines and sell to my friends in years 5& 6, so when I saw one of the magazines tucked away at the bottom of the shelf, it took my breath away. You see, I had decided very early on that I wasn't going to be another Nigerian girl that went to uni in England to do law and then abandon my degree later on. For some reason unbeknownst to me, finding my "passion" or studying what I really want to be studying was very important to me. 



It took me two confusing and very difficult years of uncertainty and many many career talks and private discussions to finally (re-)discover that the media is where my heart is at. My heart knew it in year 5 & 6 when I was a shy little girl 'publishing' and selling THREE different magazines but I had somehow convinced my head that law was what I was called to do in life. I thank God for not giving me peace about law and I thank God for redirecting me back to the beginning. But, I can't help but wonder if those two years would have happened and were necessary if I had somehow just remembered where I started or somehow stumbled upon this magazine then. 

I really believe that God has a hand on my life so I'm not too bothered about those two years now but at the same time, I kinda wish somebody would have just said, "Dara honey, your answer is right where you started. Look back." As we prepare to enter in 2016, I want to tell some, (not all) of you, that maybe, just maybe, the answer that you seek really isn't rocket science and that maybe, just maybe, the answer you so desperately seek is where you started.

I wish you all a wonderful and lovely new year!! 

From the bottom of my heart,
Dara Rhodes






Monday, 7 December 2015

Nigeria Concerns You!!!

I just watched something that made me cry. Tears of anger and pain and tears of deep sadness. As a media student, you are taught to be almost skeptical of the industry and to analyse every information you receive via the media so my mind subconsciously approached the video with guarded caution.

However, half way through it I caught myself, let my guard down and just watched it. Not with my head or media brain but with my heart and then it made me cry. I know the video had a motive but at this point, I couldn't care less about that because it said the truth. The truths every Nigerian has lived through, or seen or heard. I've written it over and over again on this blog and I will keep writing it till it is no longer true. Nigeria is a mess! A huge mess and even more than the government, the people that think it doesn't really corncern them (the middle class and upper middle class), are the biggest contributors to this mess!

It concerns you! Everything about Nigeria concerns you! The politics of the country corncerns you! Yes, you reading this! IT CONCERNS YOU! It concerns you if you are Nigerian (regardless of if you live in the country or not), it corncerns you if you have Nigerian children, it concerns you if you live and work in the country. It concerns you!

I am sick and tired of middle to upper middle class Nigerians constantly behaving like the affairs of the country don't corncern them till it starts affecting their very personal pockets! Those classes are the most selfish if you ask me! The upper classes could easily pretend it doesn't concern them too but many of them are even the most corncerned. 

I've said it before on this blog and I'll repeat it again now! All is NOT well with Nigeria! Don't be deceived! If you think that you are okay because you have a nice little house in Lekki or Banana Island now and your children go to a better school than you did, I pity you! You better be worried! Yes! Maybe if we were all worried about the country, maybe something would have changed. I write about Nigeria because I'm constantly worried about the country. I wasn't born in America, so how can I not be worried?! I literally don't have another country. (Another discussion entirely).

I've seen that the moment I leave my house and family, everybody else in the city seems to be fine with the unfineness (permit my use of this word) of the country! Stop suffering and smiling! I grew up listening to Fela and I am tired of seeing all his 'prophesies' about Nigeria come to pass! Stop pretending like our sick, sick country is well! Drop the fascade, start actively behaving like everything concerns you and maybe, just maybe, our sick country will slowly start getting better. 

Now, watch the video; http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/how-a-cancer-of-corruption-steals-nigerian-oil-weapons-and-lives/ 

With all my love, 
Dara Rhodes 

Wednesday, 25 November 2015

Well done, England.

              Photo: Duks arts


Clap for yourselves! You have successfully deported 500 Nigerians! Congratulations! How do you feel? I hope you feel wonderful! I can't even be angry with England. No, I can't, you have to protect your own country. 

My real anger is at my country. Nigeria. Would all those people have illegally clung to England if Nigeria valued their lives? Would they all have refused to voluntarily go back home if they knew they had something to go back home to? I love Nigeria but truthfully, Nigeria disgusts me! Fela was right as usual. We complain of racism but we treat ourselves worse. I wonder what would happen if all the Nigerians in England left and boycotted the country. I wonder if Tatler Magazine would have to write an article titled, "The Nigerians have left" in response to the one they wrote titled, "The Nigerians have arrived". I wonder if the boarding schools and unis in England would suffer but most importantly, I wonder if Nigeria and the Nigerians at home would be ready for all the 'I just got back' people. 

My grandparents on my paternal and maternal side destroyed (burnt) their British passports when they were a little older than I am now. That was how much they believed in their own country and their generation. It is so sad that the country they proudly rejected is now disgracefully rejecting their own fellow Nigerian citizens. I feel sorry for the deportees but this is not the end. No, far from it, in fact this is the beginning.

Sure, you are allowed to feel all the initial emotions from shame to fear of the unknown but don't get stuck there. You are home now and no one can take this one away from you. If you hadn't been to Nigeria in a while, I have good news. Nigeria has changed and is changing in amazing ways. Not necessarily because of the new government (far from it to be honest) but because Nigerians are changing. The landscape is changing. There are numerous opportunities now, you just have to be open to them and be willing to work. 

I love Nigeria! Yes, I said I'm disgusted by her but I love her nonetheless. And I hope you all fall in love with her too! I pray for strength for you and I pray you see that the Nigeria you left all those many years ago is not the same one you have returned to. (Though it may seem so at first) 


Have a wonderful evening/day you all! 


With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Tuesday, 3 November 2015

100th post.

Hello beautiful people,

I spent the 1st of November 2015, reflecting. The biggest most important lesson I've learnt this year is, all things go. Good, bad, dynasties, governments, people, friends, family, jobs, problems etc go. All things go. 

Cherish every moment and every person because they will go. And you will never get them back once they are gone. I leave you with the words of Nicki Minaj from her hit song.

Photo: typewriterquotemeup.com



With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Wednesday, 28 October 2015

Kings and Queens

Hello beautiful people, 

                                                 Photo credit: hbansari.wordpress.com

A queen/king can fall, fail and lose but that doesn't mean she/he is not a queen/king. 

You can lock up a queen/king, beat her/him and maltreat her/him but that doesn't mean her/his throne still isn't there. 

A queen/king can get her/his hands dirty but it doesn't mean her/his hands no longer belong to the queen/ king.

You can even take away her/his crown and keep her/him in the darkest part of your house for months and years, she/he is still a queen/king. 

No matter what you do to a queen/king and no matter how far away from her/his throne you take her/him, she/he will survive because she/he knows that her/his throne is waiting. It will always be waiting. 

You may not have a kingdom or be born into royalty but are the queen/king of your life never, ever forget that. 


With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Sunday, 4 October 2015

Much of life is complicated.


"All you really need to know for the moment is that the universe is a lot more complicated than you might think, even if you start from a position of thinking it's pretty damn complicated in the first place."- Douglas Adams.

Hello beautiful people,

Can you believe we are in October already?! I most certainly can't. I hope you all have had a good year so far, and if you haven't, I hope the rest of the year turns out amazing! 

Since the last time I wrote on here, two major things have happened.

 1) My best guy friend (see last post) and I have kinda made up. 

2) My beloved country, Nigeria celebrated her 55th year of independence. 


I'll start with Nigeria. On the 1st of October, I wrote a post but didn't post it because it read too much like the Independence Day post I wrote last year. (Not much had changed to me). However, today, I went to church and at the end of the service, we sang the national anthem and I cried. I hadn't sung or really listened to our anthem in such a long time, I'd forgotten how beautiful it is. Yes, everything I wrote in the post on Thursday is true- I'm still angry with Nigeria and I don't think we are really independent yet- but (and a very big but) I really, really love Nigeria. It's a very complicated thing in my head.


Unto number two. My best guy friend. I expressed my total dislike for him in my last post and even though only very little has changed, something has changed and for the simple fact that he is truly my best friend, that little change had me willing to forgive him. Again. This situation is also very complicated in my head. I love him but hate him so much too. I told my close cousin the situation yesterday and his reply was one of the best things I've heard all year. "Dara, best friendships are complicated. Infact, much of life is complicated."

In response, I nodded my head in agreement but I couldn't help thinking about his words today. He is very right. My love for Nigeria and my best friend are two very very different things but somehow the same; complicated. And guess what? It is okay. I am/was such a perfectionist, everything in my life had to be either white or black. All the grey areas were not allowed to be grey, they had to pick a side. That is good sometimes, but sometimes, one (me and maybe you) has to realise that life isn't just black and white. It does have grey, blue, yellow and every other colour that has ever been discovered. You can love somebody or a country and get mad or angry at the person or country. We can fight and make up and fight again and make up again. We can hate our countries and run to other countries and run back to ours again and run to other countries when we begin to hate our country again. Please by all means be a stable human but when life becomes complicated as it often tends to, don't despair. Why? Well, because much of life is extremely complicated.


     Photo: keshavasari.wordpress.com

With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Monday, 27 July 2015

Breathe. Just breathe.

"I wake up everyday and I think, 'I'm breathing! It's a good day.'"- Eve Ensler


                                                 Photo: americanpregnancy.org                                                     

I woke up one day and realised something very scary. I had stopped breathing. I was alive (of course) but I wasn't breathing. My breath was constantly held waiting for the next minute or trip or (not so important) very important thing I had to do. When I got into the car, I didn't notice the streets or the people around me anymore, my breath was held and my eyes fixed on the road before me like I was the one driving. When I entered buildings, I didn't notice anything or anyone around me and just went straight up to the reason why I was there. When I lay in my bed at night, my breath was held as my mind planned all the trips I had to take and things I had to do. When I ate my dinner, I held my breath as my head churned and churned over my plans for my 21st birthday this year. (1st of August)


 In all honesty, my 20th year was difficult. I lost people that were very real to me (for the first time in my life), I had to deal with constant changes like I had never had to before and whenever I thought I couldn't deal with another change, another change happened. (on the bright side, I dealt with them all! :D). Today as I think back on this past year, there's only one word that seems apt and that is, breathe. Breathe.

 Many, many, many times, we forget to breathe. I think of Bobbi Kristina (may her precious soul rest in peace) and my heart breaks. Maybe because she was just a year older than me or maybe because I'm a lot more aware of death now but that could have been me. I could have been the one that died yesterday. It didn't have to be the way she died but I could have died. All her hopes, fears and dreams don't matter now. All our hopes, fears and dreams won't matter once we are gone so why do we spend so much of our time here holding our breaths? We really are only here for a short time even if you die at 100 years old, so please breathe. I know breathing may seem like a difficult concept for some us to grasp but believe it or not, your body is doing it every second of the day. You just need to remind your mind to do the same. 

I woke up today and decided to cancel all my very OTT plans for my 21st this year and just have a very simple and nice dinner with my immediate family. I refuse to not breathe this next year of my life and my other plans would have ensured that. That's just the first battle, I'm sure next year is going to be ridden with so many other breathing battles but hey, as long as I breathe, I win. So, here's to the next year of my life and to all you beautiful beautiful people that read my little blog, breathe.

                                                               Photo: mycamera

Have a wonderful day beautiful people.

With all my love,
Dara Rhodes

Tuesday, 9 June 2015

Travesty (4)



The next morning at ten o'clock, two suitcases cases arrived at Lara's apartment but Tolu was nowhere in sight. Lara left instructions with Lucy to let her in when she eventually appeared and then went to church. As her car pulled into the spacious car park of Archbishop Vining Memorial Church, her heart fluttered and she adjusted her black vintage pillbox hat on her head. Going to church every Sunday in Lagos was like brushing one's teeth, everyone went to church, you only missed church when you were out of the country. Richard opened her door for her and as she expected, the 'paps' where waiting to capture her on their cameras. She pulled down her blue velvet sleeveless dress so it just touched her knees and smiled for all of them as she went up the stairs to the church hall.

 

Despite the rumours that the church was supposedly the oldest church in Lagos, the floors were cream marble and ghastly chandeliers hung sparingly across the room thanks to its many generous and wealthy members. The stained glasses were replaced with new ones from Rome every Christmas and the pastor was constantly thanking someone for donating the "best organ in the world to the church." Every sunday was an elegant affair and the hall looked more like a venue for an award ceremony in Hollywood than a place of worship. Lara had never been to church on time but Funke told her that a red carpet was rolled out every morning for the early comers or on time members. The only thing that reminded one that they were at church was the thick smell of incense that swayed in the air.

 

The crammed hall was full of all the usual people, politicians, socialites and their little children all dressed in ridiculously expensive dresses and suits with diamonds and gold dripping off their bodies. Even though Lara was two hours late, the first usher that saw her, smiled and ushered her to the front pew where both her parents were seated. Her mother pecked her cheeks as she sat beside her and whispered, "You look beautiful sweetheart." Her father nodded sternly in acknowledgement of her and looked straight ahead of him at the pastor like he was receiving a special word. Ade's mother, who sat on the pew behind them, leaned forward and pecked Lara's cheek and smiled widely like she hadn't seen her in years even though they saw themselves just four days ago. Ade's father was nowhere in sight, but he was probably on a business or pleasure trip, Lara thought. The overpowering smell of her mother and Ade's mother's perfume combined, always made her stomach churn and today was no exception. After all the stares at her dress subsided, Lara settled into her seat and looked round the church to take a quick inventory of who was present today and who she was going to avoid after the service.

 

Funke sat three pews behind her and rolled her eyes when they met Lara's eyes and Lara smiled. She was unconventionally beautiful and what she wore was as important to her as drinking water every day. Her husband, Timothy, sat beside her looking very serious and clean as usual. Nobody really understood how their marriage worked because they were such complete opposites. Funke was this airhead, who only cared about clothes and fashion weeks and Tim was a thoroughly well bred business man who doubled his family's money since he took over the business after he graduated with a first class from New York University. One would have expected him to marry an equally thoroughly bred woman but like so many mysteries in Lagos, he chose Funke. He smiled politely at Lara when he saw her looking his way. Towards the back of the church, she noticed the wannabe girls her age that were over dressed in clothes you could tell were cheap. They all sat up and smiled with too much enthusiasm when they saw her eyes on them. They were not part of the circle because they went to school and university in Lagos but they wanted to belong to the social circle so badly that they tried to be around the circle as much as possible. Since they couldn't afford or get into any of the private clubs or restaurants Lara and her friends frequented, they made sure they were in the same church with them. She smiled back at them and thought of how Funke would have scolded her if she caught her smiling at the people she called the "lost causes"

 

Once Lara had gotten a good view of everyone present in the church, she re adjusted in her seat and tried to focus on whatever the pastor was saying but as it was practically impossible to understand his English, she let her mind wander. She thought about what she was going to say to her father the moment she caught him alone and whether or not she was going to tell her mother and Funke about what Ade did yesterday. The pastor announced that everybody should rise for the closing prayer and Lara muttered "thank God" under her breath.

 

"What did you say darling?" Her mother whispered.

 

"I said thank God." Lara replied and her mother smiled.

 

"Please tell me you are coming for dinner tonight?"

 

"Of course I am. Why would you think I won't?"

 

Her mother shrugged, "Well, you know. You've been saying you are bored and all."

 

Lara smiled and squeezed her mother's hands, "Your parties bore me, but it doesn't mean I'll stop attending them. At least not till I find something meaningful to do"



With all my love,

Dara Rhodes

Thursday, 4 June 2015

Travesty (1)



      Lara DaSilva stood on the balcony of her penthouse, munching on an apple and looking out at the Lagos skyline. The deep orange sun was only just rising out of the clear blue skies above her but the world below her was already bustling with activity. Lagos was her city in a way no other city in the world was. The new moneyed people flocking in from Nigeria's capital, Abuja often irked her and poor non- Lagosians that arrived every day from all over the country made her skin crawl upon sight but all of them played a part in why she loved it so much and she knew that.

 

Every morning at the break of dawn, she slid out of bed, picked an apple from the pile her maid always set out for her on the dining table and stepped unto her balcony to watch everything around her come alive. It was that routine that she missed whenever she went away to other parts of the world for holidays. The soft breeze blew through her Brazilian weave and she wrapped her slender arms around her purple silk bathrobe. The wind brought with it faint noises from the crowds beneath as the traffic on Adeola Odeku formed. Lara exhaled, closed and opened her eyes, threw her half eaten apple in the bin by the sliding door and walked into her room.

 

She sat in one of the cream velvet arm chairs opposite her bed and stared at the painting above her headboard. Her father bought it from Lisbon for her twenty first birthday present six years ago. It was a colourful painting of a woman carrying a baby on her back leading three small children by a river. The woman looked sad to her, but everyone else that saw it thought the woman was smiling. Lara tilted her head to the right to see why they thought she was smiling, maybe it was the bright yellow and red streaks that deceived them. Her phone buzzed on the small circular table beside her and in between the identical cream velvet arm chair and she picked it up immediately. To her slight disappointment, it was only a reminder that one of the girls she went to boarding school in England with, Susan Babalola, was getting married in three hours. She sighed and returned the phone to it's position on the table beside countless unopened invitations to weddings, birthday parties, dinner parties and even children parties.

 

She folded her arms and thought of Ade, her reluctant betrothed. They had returned from a romantic holiday at his summer house in Côte d'azur two weeks ago and the question they both knew she desperately wanted to hear him ask, had somehow evaded him again. True to the way they were both raised to avoid "unpleasant or uncomfortable" matters, the discussion about where the relationship was headed remained the white elephant in the room. Everybody in Lagos knew themselves, nobody was new. They all attended the same schools from kindergarten to the same boarding schools in England and to the same universities in America. She couldn't even remember where exactly she first met Ade, if it was at her house or at pre-school, but everybody knew they were going to get married. It was settled. The girls were groomed for the boys and the boys married the girls that suited them best like they were choosing expensive suits. She knew her marriage to Ade was inevitable but two things scared her. The first was, why was he taking so long to propose? She turned twenty seven years old last month and had now entered the last batch of people her age waiting to get married. Getting married wasn't going to change much about their relationship except that she would now be called Mrs Danteta and move into the mansion in Old Ikoyi that had been built for them after marriage by Ade's father. Ade was still going to be the elusive partner and she was still going to be the ever faithful and waiting girlfriend.

 

The second thing that bothered her and perhaps more than the first one was, since they returned from France, she found herself in a perpetual state of boredom. Everything about the Lagos glamour filled life bored her. Her parents dinner parties every Sunday suddenly bored her to death, the different weddings she attended every Saturday all seemed to become one endless dreadful party with the same people at different venues eating manageable food and drinking tepid Verve Cliqout or Moet and Chandon. Even her favourite sport, polo was beginning to loose its appeal. When she told her mother her predicament at the last dinner party hosted at the family mansion in Victoria Island, her mother advised her to pressure Ade to marry her quickly and Lara shuddered. Despite the fact that she wanted Ade to propose to her, she didn't think she could marry him in her present state of mind. Surely, there must be more to life. Her life was like a novel she had read at school, she already knew the end. And all of a sudden, it unsettled her. Once she married Ade, that was it. She was going to become the lady of their manor, see Ade about three times a year, have about four children, travel to their summer houses abroad every year, employ nannies to follow them everywhere, send all her children to boarding school in England or Switzerland at age ten then host or attend countless, pointless parties to entertain herself every week. That was going to be her story. That was what happened to all the girls in her social circle. Their grandmothers and mothers had lived that life and now it was their turn to live it and for the first time ever, the thought of playing the main character in a story that she already knew the ending to, repulsed her.

 

"Good morning, madam."

 

Lara turned to face her pretty petite Singaporean maid standing in her doorway, "Hello Lucy, how are you this morning?"

 

"I'm fine madam," She replied and looked down at the newspaper in her hand, "I have today's newspaper and you have a package from Mr Danteta,"

 

"Alright," Lara said and stretched her perfectly manicured hand out for the newspaper. Lucy hurried forward and curtsied as she handed it over to her. "Bring the package from Ade here and don't worry about breakfast today, I'm not hungry."

 

"Okay madam," Lucy said and turned to carry out the orders.

 

Lara hated it when her staff called her "madam" but she didn't stop them. In Lagos, some battles where better left un won. She unfolded the newspaper and groaned at the bold headline at the top of the page, Femi DaSilva declares ambition to run for presidency again. She shook her head and picked up her phone immediately to dial her mother's phone number. She answered on the first ring.

 

"Hello sweetheart, has Ade proposed?" Her mother asked in one breath.

 

"What?" Lara asked and furrowed her eyebrows, "No mother, he hasn't. I just got today's newspaper. Daddy didn't tell me he was going to run for presidency again."

 

"Oh," her mother's voice went flat. "Is that why you called me? You know your father, sweetheart, he does as he pleases, when he pleases and however he pleases. That one is not my business," She paused. "Anyway, how is Ade? He should have landed in London by now."

 

Lara blinked rapidly, she had forgotten he travelled last night. "Yes mother. He should have, I need to call him," She said. "Oh and today is Susan Babalola's wedding."

 

"I see." She said. "Where are they having it?"

 

"I think it's at the Oriental hotel, the security detail have the address," Lara said absentmindedly. She couldn't believe she had forgotten Ade had travelled.

 

"Those people are so classless." Her mother said with her usual air of superiority. "Who has their child's wedding in a hotel run by Chinese people? Ah, on your wedding day, the whole of Lagos will see how a wedding should-"

 

"Yes mother, you have been saying that since I was born," Lara said and closed her eyes, "I just called you to find out why daddy didn't tell me about his presidential ambition and like I should have known, you don't have a clue either." She opened her eyes.

 

"Lara sweetheart, your problem is that you are too concerned with the mens affairs" Her mother said and sighed. "That has been your problem since you were a little girl but I managed to chase it away. Don't concern yourself with the politics of this country. That is for the men, I don't want you to go worrying your pretty little head."

 

Lucy entered the room and dropped a small brown box on the table. Lara nodded at her and she disappeared. "Alright mother darling, I love you but I really must go now. I think my make up artist just arrived and you know how long it takes to get ready for a wedding."

 

"Oh dear," She said, "I'm sorry for keeping you. Go and get ready and send my regards to Susan's mother, Sola."

 

"Okay mother, bye," Lara said quickly and hung up before her mother could say anything else.

 

She placed her phone on the table and exhaled. Looking at the little brown box Ade sent her, she crossed her arms. What was driving her father's ambition? Surely he wasn't interested in running the country at age sixty five and after he had been in power for eight years nearly seven years ago. She remembered the years her father was president and shivered. She had just turned twelve years old when he won his first term, and after four years in the Presidential Villa, she hoped, no prayed he wouldn't win a second term but somehow he did. Once his terms ended, the villa was moved from Lagos to Abuja and she was overjoyed they had left before that happened. She couldn't have imagined living in that Abuja that was over run with Northerners. Still, those eight years her father was president were the worst years of her life.

 

"Madam, Kemi is here," Lucy said as she re-appeared in the doorway. "She wants to know if you are going out in the morning or evening today"

 

"Tell her to wait," Lara said with slight annoyance at her maid for interrupting her thoughts. "The wedding is this morning," She glanced at the little clock on the table, "The church service has already started, so I'll miss that and go straight to the reception," She said more to herself than Lucy.

 

"Okay madam." Lucy said and walked away.

 

Lara watched her leave and suddenly really felt like screaming at the top of her lungs. She picked up Ade's package and studied it closely. "I should call him," She said quietly but instead, she put it back on the table, picked up the newspaper again and flipped straight to page seven. That was the photo news and gossip column page. She scanned the page quickly and was grateful there was no picture of her on it today and no mention of her name in the article. She smiled at a picture of Ade embarking on his private plane last night. The paparazzi always irritated him and his irritation showed in the pictures. She studied his beautiful face and well built body in one of his custom made suits and smiled again.

 

Ade's father, Ade Sr was her father's best friend and he was the next president after her father. Unfortunately for him, he was so unpopular with the Nigerian public that even though he rigged the elections, they rejected him after his first term. He did everything her father did so after twelve years of basically the same dishonest and wicked government, Nigerians were fed up and took the seat from him. Before he was president, he was the Governor of Lagos State for eight years. Growing up, Ade often told her that he hated politics and wasn't interested in any part of it. But on his twenty third birthday, his father gave him a birthday present that changed her relationship with him forever. He made him the permanent commander-in-chief of Nigeria's State Security Service. It was so secret that no one else but her knew what he did. Everyone else thought he was an idle rich boy and he milked that image, travelling to the most exotic places at every chance he got. Lara couldn't turn to any of her friends for advice when he disappeared for three weeks straight without a word for 'work'. She knew he wasn't lying about what he was doing but as they got older and he drew further away from her, she began to doubt that. There was a time she was madly in love with Ade. Before that birthday, they were inseparable and she was so optimistic that their story was going to be different. Now, all she knew was that she loved him. Not like a lover anymore, but like a friend that she's been tied to for life.

 

As she stared at the picture of her future husband, pity rose up in her not just for him but for the both of them. She rose from her chair and threw the newspaper on it and when she stepped into her oversized bathroom, her phone rang. She smiled and answered it without looking at who was calling.

 

"I am still alive, Funke" She said as she pulled off her bathrobe and stepped out of her night dress. "I'm just getting into the shower so if you don't mind, I have to go."

 

"No, Lara!" Funke exclaimed. "Have a bath please. I have juicy gossip for you."

 

Lara rolled her eyes and smiled again, "Don't you always. Tell me at Susan's wedding. You know I need to start getting ready now or I'll probably never get there."  

 

"Just have a bath," Funke said, "And you know I have never liked that Susan girl. I would be too annoyed to talk at the rubbish wedding if I was going."

 

"What? You are not going?" Lara asked as she ran her bath water and poured in her lavender bath oils. "Funksy, how on earth did you get out of it?"

 

"You're my best friend, you know me," Funke said. "I told her I'm taking the kids to Dubai for the weekend and that they have been looking forward to it since they got back to Lagos from summer."

 

"You little devil," Lara said and laughed. "I wish I had kids to use as lies."

 

"Don't worry, you will very soon but hold your horses on the kids train. The moment that train arrives, you'll wish it waited," She said. "And it's not a complete lie. The kids just left for the airport. The only difference is that I'm not the one taking them."

 

Lara smiled and slid into the bath, "Okay, what's the gist?"

 

"Can you remember Tolu Abebi?" She said. "That mixed race girl that went to primary school with us but mysteriously disappeared after year six? Well, my trusted news sources have just informed me that she landed in Lagos this morning from Los Angeles,"

 

"What?" She said. "Why is she back? What was she doing in Los Angeles?" Lara sat up in the bath and pictured the pretty little girl that was her table partner in Corona primary school, the most exclusive in Lagos. Nobody knew anything about her family, other than her mother was German and her father belonged to one of the founding families of Nigeria. Her parents never attended any school function but her maids were always decently dressed at the parent teacher meetings. All the other children laughed at her and bullied her because she was so quiet and severely dyslexic but Lara liked her.  

 

"Well, we shall find out over the next couple of days but I just thought it was interesting that she'd come back when the elections are about to start and we are all preparing to leave town for the next six months," Funke said.

 

"Yeah it is." she replied dryly.

 

Funke exhaled. "Okay, what is bothering you now Lara?"

 

"Funks, my father wants to run for presidency again," She paused. "And I am scared he is going to win."

 

Funke laughed, "Phew, thank God that's what is bothering you. I thought you were fighting with Ade again and I was already preparing a speech." She breathed in and out, "Why is your father's life affecting you? It's not like you are going to live in the Villa with him when he becomes president now. I know how terrible the last time was for you but you are older now and you have your life now. In a couple of months, you'll be married and starting your own little family."

 

Lara nodded and closed her eyes, "You're right," She said. "But it's still bothering me."

 

"Sorry sister, but Tim just walked in so I have to escape to the spa now and you have a wedding to attend. By the way, I saw that picture of Ade on page seven and he looked mighty fine," She chuckled, "Bye sweety," She added and blew a kiss.

 

Lara smiled, "Thank you for the gist and bye honey."

 

She dropped her phone on the little beige persian rug and sank back into the bath as she let her mind roam. She had forgotten that they'd all have to leave Lagos soon and even though she knew she almost didn't have a choice, she didn't want to leave this year. Funke had been her best girl friend since pre-school and she called her every other morning with the latest gossip in Lagos on her tongue. Her family was new money, her father, Emmanuel Wilson was an entrepreneur. He married an ambitious middle class woman and they started an oil services company that only grew in leaps and bounds partly because Nigeria became the biggest oil producer in Africa and partly because they made sure they were around the right circle. His father, Funke's grandfather, died dirt poor, still Funksy was the biggest snob Lara knew but she loved her. When they were together, Funksy was funny, real, honest and carefree, a true best friend.



The story continues tomorrow.


With all my love,

Dara Rhodes