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      We seem to be locked in this cycle of "all things first". Especially in this part of the world. First to finish school, first to get a job, first to marry, first to buy the latest car. Sad truth? Many of us are begining to live our lives for these first tittles. Afterall, "Warri no dey carry last" Yet, I can't help but think that the people who come in 'last' are somehow the true winners.

       First of all, each and every single one of us are on very different journeys. So please tell me the wisdom in using one ruler to judge all our progresses. Some may have to go back to go forward and others may have to go really slowly to reach their destination in one piece. Who really gave us the power/ right to judge another person's journey? That your child and my child were in the same class but your child had to repeat a year, hence finishing a year later does not in any way imply that my child will be more successful than yours. Infact, I've found that most times, the later or slower ones tend to be the more successful ones. The fable of the hare and tortoise we are all so familiar with comes to my mind now. Maybe "slow and steady" really does win the race.

          "Late bloomers" are another example. Ever noticed how the girls in senior school/high school that mature last are most times the unpopular and uncool ones and boys seem to always gather around the early bloomers like bees and honey? Well, boys have testified time and time again that in the end (when everyone in the class eventually matures) the late bloomers are usually much better looking than the early bloomers. Unfortunately and this is the irony of life, the boys realise this long after the senior/high school days are over. You see, I believe that the slow and steady development in the late boomer girls is what causes them to outshine their early blooming counterparts, in the end, For the slow or late ones, please don't be deterred by the early craze. You will win at the end of it all.

    Finally, in a world where everybody is hurrying to only God knows where, don't be afraid to go slow and enjoy your own journey.


Have a wonderful day beautiful people!

With all my love,
Dárà Rhodes x