Sweet nothings.

       I think we all need to hear sweet nothings from time to time. Does everything really have to be deep and meaningful? Sometimes we just need to hear words of endearment. However, I can't help but wonder if its the need to hear these words that drive many of us into futile or even damaging relationships?


    Before you start thinking, "Dara don't be ridiculous" hear me out. Maybe words are too light. I'll use actions. Could the need for actions that on the grand scale mean nothing and that'll most likely do more harm than good be the drive of many of our relationships? I hate wasting time and even more importantly, I hate other people wasting my time. So maybe that's why I cannot understand why people enter into some relationships knowing its doomed from the start. The only conclusion my little brain can gather from this is; sometimes human beings just want sweet nothings.


     Consequences? We don't want to think about them. No, no. We'll deal with them when they come later. Much later. When perhaps its too late to undo the disastrous deeds. Can't think of an example of what I'm saying? I'll give you one. A boy and girl or man and woman know that the 'thing' between them isn't going anywhere yet (because "he tells me sweet things" or is loving sometimes), the girl/woman ends up pregnant with a child neither of them really want or can cater for. If this isn't a good example of sweet nothings and its consequences, then I really don't know what is.


    In conclusion, to me, sweet nothings are a waste. A waste of everything. A waste of words. A waste of time. A waste of energy. Why say or do something you don't mean? And before you say, but Dara, its affectionate, if you truly want to be affectionate, why not say and do what you really mean? Or has something happened to, honesty is the best policy? Lol. Excuse my pessimism. Sweet nothings can be wonderful. Especially when its the right person saying those words or doing those things. However, until then, I'd much rather the wrong people save it.

Have a wonderful day beautiful people!


With all my love,
Dárà Rhodes x